How do you and your SO handle finances? I moved in with my bf about 2 years ago pretty swiftly after we began dating bc my sister was living with me for the summer and going back to school, I couldn’t afford the apartment without her and my bf worked a difficult schedule so it made sense for us the be able to see one another and save some money. The agreement was that we’d save money to buy a bigger house together bc I have two kids. We don’t have monthly payments for his house only utilities and internet. I pay for the storage shed to keep all of my things bc we downsized significantly and he pays for the internet. As for utilities he’ll occasionally mention a larger bill and I’ll offer to pitch in. I pay for all of my kids things (not his kids) I do get about $200 a month in child support to help with that. But I pay for daycare, dance, school, insurance, all of it by my self. I pay for my own bills and he pays his, we have separate accounts other than our joint account to save for a house. He pays for a majority of the groceries since I no longer get assistance. But I do pitch in as much as I can. I make half as much money as he does and have twice as many bills because I have a car payment and the kids to take care of. All of my tax and stimulus money I’ve put in our joint savings for a house. He has been on this kick recently about how I should give him money for rent and I should be giving him half of the grocery bill. But I don’t think I should have to. He has twice as much money in his checking as I do at any given time and he has his own personal savings he keeps a lot in. I don’t have any of that. I have our joint savings which I’ve put a lot of money into myself and my checking. He makes a big deal about me buying myself lunch, or buying myself anything I don’t necessarily need but he spends whatever he wants. I just feel like he see it as just him and then me and my kids. I don’t feel like he sees us as a family. Like he’s not working to help take care of our family, he works so that he can have more money. Idk how I’m supposed to consider buying a house and marriage with someone who doesn’t see us as a whole. When I discuss this with him his solution is that I get a better paying job. Mind you, I make well above minimum wage and my company treats me really well and will work with me anytime I need off.