Okay so I feel really dumb writing this, so don't be too harsh with me.

I've become single after 10 years with the same man. He was about 5inches and average/small girth( my fingers could touch around). I always found that had to kind of push it in and sometimes it would be uncomfortable for my vagina and sometimes would have discomfort after for a few hours type thing.

I'm turning 30 and thinking of getting back into the dating game soon. I really don't masturbate or know a whole lot of what I like for myself. (I'm working on this) I was in my 20s and never spoke up about what I liked, didn't like, as our sex was kind of routine and not spicy..

So I've been experimenting and just being more in tune with my vagina/body. But I have some insecurities.

I find I have good control (tightness) inside my vagina. But on the outside where the vaginal opening is, I feel like it's quite open. Like I can easily stick a finger in there if I'm properly lubricated and turned on (I know we "bloom" when we'returned on. But like the skin at the opening seems "loose or open", I'm not sure if I'm explaining it right.

But I'm feeling self conscious if I have a man finger me/go in me, or go down on me. Will they think I'm loose? Is this normal? Am I overthinking it? Lol

I do have what they call "roast beef flaps" 😂 I was contemplating labiaplasty but I'm so scared of having complications etc with it I'm not sure if I will.

But I just wanted to know if this is normal at the vaginally opening?

Thanks lovelies ♡