Please help- Should I stop potty training?

Question

We started trying to potty train my daughter at 2 years old. She didn’t like it one bit and freaked out every time we tried. I put the potty up and decided to wait until she was older. She’s now 2 1/2 and we are trying again. She will get excited about her sticker chart for the potty, but that’s as far as it goes. I have to show her a video on my phone (1 min video) of her bouncing in a bounce house for her to agree to try to go potty. Then when she’s on it, she’ll sit for a few seconds and try to leave without even attempting to pee. If I try to get her to stay longer, she’ll bawl her eyes out and say “need a hug. Want to get out. We’ll try again in a little bit.” 😭 She is holding her pee all day aside from nap and bedtime (we put a pull up on her during those times.— please don’t tell me this is advised against. I’ve read that it’s confusing for baby, but she can’t handle not having one at this point. It would stress her out even more). I feel terrible. Should I just stop training until she’s older? Its only been 3 days. Otherwise,  does anyone have any helpful tips to help calm her fears?

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I’d say wait until she’s older, honestly. My daughter was showing signs that she was ready from age 2. We tried at 2 and 2,5 going straight to underwear and setting timers and giving rewards. She wasn’t ready. She would hold it until she couldn’t hold it any longer and wet herself. All the while she was actively telling us “not now”, “I’m not ready”, “maybe later.” I stopped trying and would just ask her now and then if she wanted to try, and she would continue telling me no, she wasn’t ready. Then one day (I’m not kidding), she woke up and wanted to try! She peed successfully twice, and insisted I put her in undies instead of a pull up. She never looked back and had maybe 2 accidents if that. She still wore a pull up to sleep for a couple of weeks just in case but she night trained amazingly fast compared to my son as well. She was completely out of diapers (day and night) by 3. 
If she is telling you she’s not ready I would trust her and not push it. Just keep her in diapers and ask now and then if she wants to try. It will probably be like a light switch for her too.

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It sounds like she’s not ready. I’ve always heard the more you have to fight with them about using the potty the more drawn-out the process is. My first learned how to use the potty when she was 3.5, just clicked one random morning and we didn’t look back. My second is still coming around to it and he just turned 3.

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Too early wait until she shows all signs of readiness and not just to go potty for a reward etc

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At 18 months old, my daughter was showing signs that she was somewhat ready. When I went to pee, she’d follow me and would take off her diaper to sit on her potty while I was using the toilet but she wouldn’t actually pee/poop in it. She was also letting us know when to change her diapers after she recently peed/pooped. But when we tried to potty train her at that time, she just wasn’t ready… so we waited till just last month to start potty training.
My daughter is now almost 27 months old & she just learned how to potty train.… I mean, she just fully learned how to use the potty to pee. It took us literally 5 days to train her. At naps & bedtime, she still does wear pull-ups but during the day she is now only wearing underwear. And for the first time, today she told me “mommy, I have to dodo” without pooping herself and she went straight to her potty to poop when I told her, “ok let’s go dodo”. 
BUT the 5 straight days time it took to train her, there were many many MANY pee & poop accidents on the floor, rug, kitchen chairs, & even couch. LOL…
But this is what worked for us—
(1) we expected a lot of whining, crying, & pee/poop accidents
(2) we didn’t have our daughter wear a diaper or underwear while potty training
(3) we put on a timer (we set our timer to 1hr 45mins) to when it’s time for our daughter to use the potty
(4) we do NOT ask if she needs to pee/poop. Instead, we tell her once the timer goes off, “let’s go shishi/dodo” or “it’s time to shishi/dodo”
(5) & every time our daughter peed/pooped in the toilet, we rewarded her with one piece of Welsh’s fruit snack… which works great for us cause we don’t often give our children candy

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Look up Emma Hubbards latest video on YouTube.

Please help- Should I stop potty training?

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