am i wrong for saying no?

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so my child is 21 months. has not seen dad since august of 2021 and dad believes i should just drop my child off at his house for a few hours when dad and his whole family are strangers. i tell him we can go to a park and i will stay on a bench and leave them be. he says no that i need to stay in my car and let them do whatever. i’m trying to explain my child is very uncomfortable around strangers at this stage and they will run to me even around people they knows just hasn’t seen in a while. 
i don’t think i’m asking for anything unreasonable or will be doing anything to interfere with their time. i just want to be a safety point for my toddler.
another question is if we went through court which would probably take another 6 months at least because dad is refusing a dna test. also refuses to give me any financial support at all. would they just say like yes your child has to go to his dads? or would they start off with supervised visits? (i’m in florida if it helps)
i’m debating just cutting contact and letting court handle it bc in december, april, and may he said he’s going to see our child and never did always has some excuse. i just wait for him to reach out and i always say yes you can see them so i don’t look bad for court wise. and if he  actually wanted to see our child i would take them. i have always drove about 45 minutes to let them see each other. i’m not the reason they stopped seeing each other. i never stood in the way. dad just wants to have a sexual relationship with me and i refuse so now he acts like i’m evil and i won’t allow them to bond. i just want what’s best for my child. i don’t want to force him to be in an uncomfortable situation with someone he doesn’t know.

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I agree you're not wrong. Trust your gut instinct it's there to protect your child. If he really wanted to see his son you being close by wouldn't change anything. I'd keep doing what your doing, and offering to be in the same area so you don't look like your refusing him contact. Let the courts handle it.  From the way it sounds he'll never make it to the courts because he doesn't want to have to pay child support.

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You're not wrong at all, you're doing exactly what your child needs from you and protecting them. I would think that'd be quite confusing and traumatic as a small child to be left with people you don't know. He should be a better human and think about how that would effect the child. You keep doing what you're doing, good job mama!

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Hellllll No would I drop my child off with anyone they hadn’t seen in 10 months. Even Dad (excluding like, military or something). 
Let him take you to court if he cares so much. I bet you he won’t.

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You’re not wrong. I have a friend in Florida who has gone through it all with the father and the courts. First, DNA test doesn’t grant him all he wants just because. This guy was absent the entire pregnancy and although she called him on her way to give birth he didn’t show up. Lost his chance to give this baby his last name. Now, he wants to give this child his name (she’s 4yrs) and the courts agree with the mother that he doesn’t have the right unless she decides she wants to have her daughter change it. As for child support (he’s a bad person) so he hides his income and barely gives her anything. She does have to send the child to him 2 weekends out of the month. Yet, she has full custody and decision making  for the child. He doesn’t need to be asked for permission on things like, switching schools, going on trips, ect. It’s all up to her. 
They did start with supervised visits at first. I can’t remember how long it lasted though. I remember they showed someone neutral to be the middle person and this person was the “supervisor” on this meetings. Juts like you said they would go to the park and this person would sit close by, yet not interfere. They would go for lunch, this person would sit in another table, ect. She dealt with the courts directly and didn’t need a lawyer. She represented her self and basically got “everything” she wanted. I think in FL courts favor the mothers most of the time. They will most likely make him do the DNA and he won’t be able to deny it.
Sorry, not much I know but I hope it helps a little.

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Don't waste your time. 
Let him take you to court document anything he sends you.

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Your toddler hasn’t see him in a while and wouldn’t be comfortable with him alone. You are not in the wrong for wanting to meet at a park and just be on the side lines. You are not depriving him from his kid, he is doing it to himself. Your kid sees you as their safe place and their dad needs to understand that he can’t be out and just back in without some issues to work around. As for court stuff, it is up to them what happens but just looking at the story you would probably get more custody if not full and him get visitation (supervised or not) but a lot plays into those decisions so I can’t tell you exactly. I also personally don’t know any specific details that Florida says about it only general things.

am i wrong for saying no?

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