Clitoral simulation, that is what works for me, penetration never did, and even with my current partner, the only way that I feel him is with my legs together, up in the air and using lifestyle skins extra studded condoms, otherwise I cannot feel him in there whatsoever, his penis is thinner than what I’m used to, and if I’m on top of him, I can’t fill him at all I have to go by his facial expressions and sounds. But some thing that does clitoral stimulation as what you’re gonna look for. Check out Adam and Eve, or Amazon, or your local Spencer‘s gift at the mall, doesn’t have to cost a lot of money, but just remember that you may get used to the vibrations and have a hard time getting off manually, I have not used sex toys in over 15 years, because I became dependent on them and it took me about three or six months to get back to normal to be able to climax on my own. I literally have an entire cabinet of sex toys when I was a dominatrix, but I don’t use any of them. I hear a lot of people like the rose sex toy, I have not tried it myself so I can’t recommend it, I would try maybe a wand or something with a curved tip to get into your clitoris, or the egg or bullet to get into that area. Have fun and be safe make sure you clean it well, you’re well lubricated either a water-based lube, or your own, and have fun