My husband and I are going on 5 years married. Over the last several months, he has followed, added, and messaged several (think 30+) women, initially saying he is interested in only friendship because he is married with kids. This isn’t always perceived as looking for friendship and some women have started calling him “baby, babe, cutie, hottie”, things of this nature. Saying they miss conversations with him. This week I came across several recent messages of him discussing our sex life (or lack of) with them, talking in detail about what we do, don’t do, and what he wants to do, complaining about what happens after we have sex (soreness/not doing what he’s like). Also, a conversation with a woman saying that if he wasn’t a married man, he would do her so hard she couldn’t sit down. He’s always had boundary issues, that’s not new and we have discussed this in detail in marriage counseling. But it continues and has crossed into more serious conversations that I am extremely disappointed and disgusted by. Had this crossed into infidelity or does it remain innocent? Should I be bringing up how this makes me feel? He had extremely narcissistic tendencies with constant gaslighting so I’m not sure how much can be addressed outside of a controlled therapy session.