My hubby and I have been together almost 8 years. We still have a decent sex life. 1-3x a week. We have 2 young kids that definitely get in the way of that aspect.

But we’ve had an agreement, that we save all of of pleasure for each other. No porn. This has been talked about on numerous occasions. And we both agree.

But here I am finding porn on his phone on a pretty regular basis. And he has turned me down a couple of nights then i find out later he watched porn while he was using the bathroom.

Obviously I’m invading his privacy. But he also knows I check his phone occasionally and he deletes it from his phone history but not his google history. So I can still see it.

I’m all upset about it right now because last night I tried initiating and he seemed bothered with having to have sex with me. Well he watched porn 2 hours prior. And I knew it.

So I want to address it with him. But I don’t know how. I don’t want to give it away on how I find his history either because I still want to know.

But he’s lying and trying to cover his tracks. And I will outright ask him if he has and he’ll deny it. And I understand if it’s been awhile, yes we all have a itch and I tell him I don’t fault him if he needs to, it’s normal. But porn is a no no.

Come wake me up. Sneak away. I am willing and able. Why does he continue to do something that he knows hurts me. Not just looking at others but I pass up on me.

Sorry for the long read. Please help😓