Husband and I have been together for almost 19 yrs now, we are both in our early 30’s with 2 kids. Over the last few years he’s changed a lot becoming more angry, yelling at me more, blaming me for things that I had nothing to do with, and telling me what I can and can’t do. Like for example on Saturday June 25th I have a all day girls day with our 15 yr old daughter and my 2 sisters and we have had this planned for MONTHS we had to change the date 2 times due to birthday parties for my nieces on his side but not problem and I told him why don’t he take out 7 yr old son and his dad and go do something fun but he gets all pissed off and says stupid stuff like “I don’t know why you think you need a girls day you don’t see me doing stuff with my siblings” and I tell him all the time do stuff with them and all he does is say “no I don’t care to do shit with them a they aren’t into stuff I like” he’s only all about beer and sports that’s it. So tonight after getting home he cracked a beer open and was in a pissy mood cuz a truck came late to work and I told him he don’t need to take it out on us we didn’t do anything wrong as he’s yelling at me telling me I’m lucky he’s allowing me to do a girls day that he shouldn’t have to spend any money on whit like that (he’s not, I’ve been saving up babysitting money and taking in the cans to get some money for months now) and I told him he’s not the boss of me and can’t controls what I do but that just pissed him off more and he was trying to tell me I control his ever move and I told him he wasn’t allowed at the bar after work last week with him cousin who retired from working cuz last time he got way drunk and spent almost $175 on drinks and we didn’t have an extra $175 to spend at the time and I had to go get him at midnight and I was pissed.

I just don’t know what to do I’m stuck in a homemaker and take care of the house work and kids cuz he keeps talking about me getting a job and I told him if need be yes I will but it would be a part time job and to where I don’t start til after 8am for the kids and school cuz daycare for the 7 yrs old is still spending and I don’t believe in having our oldest should babysit her sibling all day everyday. I calculated minimum wage and what it cost for daycare for a month and it’s not work it in our area at all I would only be bringing him $300-$350 by the time we day for daycare then gas too.