What would you do forgive and forget or continue saying fuck this?

Why do people like to force pregnant women to make up with their moms. Especially when their mom was in the wrong (especially first time moms to be). My mother and I haven’t spoken in over a month, last time we spoke it was a whole argument started and cause by her about something I didn’t care about and between me and my sister (both grown as women). My family keeps trying to force me to make up with her because I am pregnant and pregnant woman need there moms 😒 and it’s her first grandchild and blah blah blah, even after telling them my side of the story which they claim to understand. She sent me voice notes calling me a bitch which is nothing new and wishing that I crash my car into something when I didn’t stay to be yelled cause she would pretend not to see. She even called my fiancé and tell him if I am dying to not call her and telling him shit to cause problems between us because she insists that it’s because me and my fiancé aren’t happy I am picking a fight with my sibling (like what 🫤). I can get over her calling me a bitch because sadly it’s not the first time nor do I picture it being the last time and because she has called me worse. The thing that gets me is the fact that she wishes me harm and knowing that I am pregnant. I tell them this but all they seem to wanna do is force me to talk to her. at no point did she once pick up the phone and try to reach out to me to apologize but I keep hearing she didn’t mean it from family members I should move on cause I need her especially since I’m a first time mom.

For the past eight months this lady has not seemed interested in my pregnancy whatsoever she claimed that she was planning a surprise baby shower for me in August when the baby is due but since me and her got into an argument I can forget about it. My sisters had to force her to come to the gender reveal. I try to make plans and involve her and stuff she tells me not to do that yet I should wait, wait for when? Try to bring her to appointments doesn’t seem interested try to involve her in baby registry doesn’t seem interested try to involve her in picking a name all she cares about is that she can pronounce the name. The only time she seemed genuinely happy about me being pregnant was when I told her and I told her when she was at work.

***keep in mind***

I am 30 years old she’s been annoying me about giving her a grandchild since I was like 24/25 years old (didn’t do it for her)

I don’t live with her

Me and my fiancé got engaged before I even got pregnant

Both me and my fiancé has a job

She supposedly love my fiancé she calls him her son ( she even called him two days ago and I was sitting right there and she didn’t even ask about me)

And we live in our own apartment.

She blocked me and I blocked her phone calls but she has my fiancé‘s phone number she knows where I live and she knows where I work.

So how do I need her? And why should I be the bigger person AGAIN?