Background: as early as kinder years my mother left us with family members to take care of us while she partied and wanted to be popular among a circle of rich people.

Current: mother now has a self induced stroke, completely avoidable IF she only saw a doctor or listened to anyone except herself. Self medicating with meds that weren’t hers and shitty lifestyle was going to catch up and it did. Her own mother had a stroke and she was clearly aware of what she needed to do to avoid the same situation.

Problem: she now wants to move in with me, hubby, baby and potentially #2 on the way. We have no room whatsoever and more so I have NOOOOO connection with this woman let alone a memory of her ever saying she loved me or hugged me.

My bro is practically nonexistent and is letting her own sister/our aunt care for her as we pay room/board. We don’t live in the same city so it makes everything extremely difficult do for anything.

I have zero time let alone energy to watch another person. She keeps insisting that she can help babysit my daughter BUT who will watch her watch my daughter. Admits she is lazy and won’t change a diaper as well so don’t even try to be a sitter. She just wants a clean house to live in with someone (me) catering to her every need like I was living back home again.

No daughter should’ve been made to clean a two story home, laundry, and yard work in 2nd grade while being left home alone almost every night as her own mother is out having an affair. So at an early age, my bro and I relied on each other to survive.

Unfortunately, the “family” is very codependent and is demanding we step up as her children and care for her no matter what had transpired. I’m stuck in a difficult spot because having no connection with my mom and my husband knowing how badly she treated me, we’re just unwilling to open our doors to someone who just expects to be cared for.

I pray I get over this hurdle and the demand to move in quiets down because I can’t even stand her here for a weekend.