Do you ever want to be abused ?

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Does anyone ever want your partner to abuse you? Not emotionally but physically. For some reason I really want him to hit me, leave me bruises , and so on. I’ve been wanting that for so long but he’s just not that type up person , sometimes I feel like sense he can mentally hurt me that’s why I want it but still don’t seem right. ( Not just a sexual fantasy) If you have any idea why I could be wanting this please fill me in. Thank you.

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Therapy asap.

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There is a difference between “abuse” and like bdsm and consensual sexual dominance and play. And I agree with therapy as a good first step.

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No...and I'm quite concerned for you.
Please seek the help of a therapist.

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Sounds like he's mentally abusing you (who h others can't always see ) and maybe you are feeling like if he physically abused you you'd have proof to show for it or others would step in and help ? 
I'm sorry for what you are going through I do agree therapy is a good start and if you are not feeling safe in the relationship you should open up to a trusted person about it

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This is a form of self harm are you feeling guilty it upset with yourself about something or stressed out?

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You need therapy. Abused no, a good ass smack when we are having sex or biting nipples and boobs sure. But thays not abuse.

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I understand this sadly if you were beat or sexually abused or even mentally or verbally abused as a child you may have internalized that you are bad and deserve to be hurt. Especially If the abuser put it on you and said things like that whether directly or indirectly.  You may have learnt that self harm was the way to handle your feeling and issues whether as a protective measure subconsciously to punish yourself so the abuser wont need to punish you further or worse because you internalized the messages that your bad and deserve to be hurt and your inner child came to believe that as fact. Now as an adult when you feel guilty or upset with yourself or somebody else is upset with you and that has you nervous worried  stressed or guilty your default is that behaviour and desires because it's all associated it could also be a desire to reenact the abuse with somebody you trust to regain power and control it can honestly come from a million things all of which are very psychological so I agree you should seek counseling either psychodynamic or schema or imago therapy to bring to light what's behind this not because it's wrong to feel that way but because your seeking insight as to why your feeling that way and those therapies can change your life with how much insight they can bring you. I've been in psychodynamic for 4 years now and it has completely changed my life. I used to have those desires also especially when I was mad at myself I had severe ptsd etc but my life is much better now get the help it will bring you more satisfaction than hurting yourself!

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I would seriously look in to therapy because this isn't right.

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Get a therapist. A team of therapists.

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