AITA- Wanting to be more safety conscious?

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ETA: I did apologize. 
I take my 20mo son to swim class in the mornings and took him today and when his hair was wet he had 2 small black n blue bruises on his forehead. From last week he has a cut on his head, a cut on his leg that’s bruised, and a black toenail. I was taken aback by the forehead and embarrassed in front of the other parents in the class. 
When I got home and my son was climbing the tree I said to my husband like “he’s got so many bruises people are going to think my husband is abusive” well my husband got VERY offended by this and is VERY upset at me- saying that I accused him of abuse. 
I did not- I just don’t want my kid that banged up and wanted a little more safety conscience. I obviously know my son isn’t beat or even spanked - his brother is 2.5 and they wrestle and are wild and play outside all day. My husband and I are both at home currently all day- I work remote and do schoolwork- he is disabled. I tried to explain to my husband that women give other women the side eye and I don’t want to be avoided in public (already live far away from friends and family)  because my child looks all banged up. He said I should always have his back and shouldn’t care what people assume/may think. I do have his back but I guess I do care what people think - I want my children to look well cared for. 
So wondering from other parents …. AITA? Is this a reasonable feeling?

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I mean, you didn’t have to try to call out your husband, you could have just said something along the lines that you don’t want people to think your son is abused. Not sure why you felt the need to say “your husband abuses”, like a mother can’t abuse just as easily. Kids hurt themselves, they fall, they are clumsy. I do think your statement was uncalled for.

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I’m just super lost on your line of thinking at all. Little kids get bruised up all the time. Why would anyone think your child is beaten because they have a few bruises? Why they automatically assume it’s your husband. Why would you say any of that to him. And what’s your plan to be “more safety conscious”? Wrap him in bubble wrap?

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Some kids are just very clumsy and get bruises. I'm constantly telling my 2nd kid that he needs to be in control of his body. Who cares what other people think. Also, don't think the comment about your husband was necessary at all. Strangers could think it was you since you seem so weird about what other people think about your kids random ouchies.

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You are the asshole and we a dick to him for no reason. Kids get bruises and mothers abuse there kids to. So they are probobly side eyeing you thinking your abusing him.since they only see him with you

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Ya, in this situation you were. Kids at this age and for many years will get constantly banged up. Why was that put on your husband? You will eat your words when your child gets hurt under your supervision. You’re supposed to be a team. If you’re concerned about your husbands care, that needs to be addressed in a serious manner

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idk I often feel similar.. like.. our kids is often so bruised up, my husband and I often say to eachother that people are going to think we're abusing him or something... but we're not claiming one or the other is abusive

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I wouldn’t side eye anyone. My daughter bruises easily and never watched where she is going. Just today she fell trying to climb off her bed and later ran into the door jamb because she was turned and looking at me while she walked. She’s far from abused but Always has bruises. It’s how they play, she isn’t complaining and is always having fun so I don’t worry.

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Why would they assume husband, if I was to assume which unless the child had very visible abuse markings I would assume they play hard at home now if I assumed they were being beat I would blame both parents as a whole not just the father, so yeas you are a asshole

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Why did you say "ppl are gonna this my husband is abusive" you could say" ppl are gonna think We are"?? Id probably be pissed to honestly....and who TF cares what some random ass ppl think??

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If it see a child with bruises my first thought isn’t that they’re abused by their father. I think it was a little much to say that to your husband. My 3 kids are always covered in bruises from playing. I could understand wanting to be more careful but I’d be incredibly upset if my husband were to say something like that to me

AITA- Wanting to be more safety conscious?

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