Am I a b*tch if I don’t want my baby’s father in the delivery room ??

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I’m 8 months pregnant and we’ve officially ended our relationship due to him being selfish, insensitive, dismissive and neglectful during this whole process. I’m heartbroken and trying my best to get over him and focus on loving myself. With that being said, I know he says he wants to be in his daughter’s life and he’s gonna help out…I just don’t trust him or have any respect for him currently. I don’t trust him emotionally and I feel betrayed at how I’ve been treated and I feel like if he can’t be sensitive and considerate of my feelings and assist me during my pregnancy, what is the point of having him present during labor and delivery? I’ve been under so much emotional stress this whole pregnancy and at this point I just want a peaceful stress free environment during labor and delivery. He can meet the baby right after, I just don’t care for him to see me in such a vulnerable state again and I don’t believe he’ll be of any assistance to me while I’m in pain. 
Am I being a bitter bitch? Or am I making sense in wanting to protect myself and my mental health for the sake of being fully present to nurture my baby girl.

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You are 100% in charge of who is in there with you. Giving birth is the most vulnerable state you’ll ever be in. No justifications, no guilt, if you’re going to be more focused relaxed and confident with him gone then he can stay away. My husband was in there with me because he is my support there, not just because he’s my child’s father.

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Girl you don’t have to think about it, if he’s not providing any help why would he get the privilege of being there? You need to be feeling the best possible that day, not worrying for him being there just to stress you out. Wishing you the best delivery! ❤️

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Not petty or bitchy at all. You have someone there who will run round after you, wipe sweat of your brow, encourage you, praise you. If he can’t do that now then there’s no reason to say he will do it when you really need him. If you were allowed two people in labour with you then maybe if he puts in some effort before but if it’s one person hell no. Like you said I’ll let you know I’m in labour your welcome at the hospital but you aren’t welcome in the room until baby is born. Maybe he should’ve thought about his attitude and effort before now 😒

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It would be really strange if you were to have him there. Usually you only have support people there. It has nothing to do with who is biologically related to the child is only to do with the mother and who is trained to be the mom‘s support people and birth partners. If he is part of that plan and he will be leading you through breathing exercises and taking care of you and things like that then you would have him there. If he is not then it would be very unusual to have him there. You definitely never have anyone there even if it’s room mother if they stress you out or make you uncomfortable in anyway. Birth is a major medical event for a woman and it’s extremely difficult physically and emotionally and in order for this to be successful and have the best outcome for you and your baby you have to make sure that you only have supportive people looking out for your best interest

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Nope your not my second son his dad didn't even know he was born until after he was here he did know I was in the hospital but I didn't want him in the delivery room as I knew it wouldn't be helpful during labor and delivery I texted him after he was born so he and his mom could come and see our son

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Regardless of your status of your relationship if he wants to be there I would allow him to . He won't get that experience back with you guys child . I think you need think more about the child vs you guys but being together cause you guys created the child together.

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You’ll need someone with you who you completely trust and who will look after all your needs, stand up for you and speak for you when you can’t. He is clearly not that person snd shouldn’t be there.

Am I a b*tch if I don’t want my baby’s father in the delivery room ??

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