Has anyone turned their vanilla man into something more exciting and willing?

Hi ladies.

My husband and I have a lacklustre sex life. He's the first man I've been with who has no interest in pleasuring me, and generally thinks sex is a dirty word (he's not religious and doesn't come from a weird family..well they're not the most fun to be around, but not necessarily odd). Sex to him is getting it in and out. Occasionally I get 'pleasured' (cue quick rubbing on my spot, and me secretly thinking about other liaisons to turn myself on), but as soon as I'm done, he moves back to getting the whole job over with. He closes his eyes and lays his head on a pillow when seeing to me. We do the same sex repetoire each time.

I've tried to encourage some foreplay, but he's not into it, I ask what turns him on he says 'you do', I ask him what he's thinking about during sex, he says 'why do I need to think of anything?'...

I've addressed the idea of toys - he changes the subject.

We've been watching 'how to build a sex room' on Netflix.. He instead cuddles our dog or scrolls on his phone.

He's French, he's sexy, but he acts anything but.

Sex when we met was the same, but I suppose I was too wrapped up to notice, as he was husband material, and not the usual bad boy that I was used to.

We have a 17m old, and have been trying again, but of course, he was most interested to get it in and out when I was ovulating only.

I'm so bored, help!