Hello! I need some advice.

I have been talking to an amazing man that I met through a local dating app. He is the kindest, handsomest, and most caring person I have ever met and I can feel myself falling head over heals for him after just 2 months.

Now I have only ever dated white people of my own age range before, as I used to live in a very small town and unfortunately they are still living in 1950. After moving with my family I met (we’re gonna call him AC for privacy reasons) AC online and things have been great! Until… I told my family. AC and I have a 9 year age gap. We fit together like a puzzle piece 🧩 even with that age difference so I see no problem. My family thinks that because of his culture (Hindi) that he is “preying on me” (I am 18 and will be 19 in about a month.) and that they are worried for me “not” because the color of his skin but because his culture “has a history of abuse towards women”. Now I am ashamed of them and their narrow minded thoughts and we have had a few fights about this. I don’t wanna bring him home where he would have to deal with anything like that as he never deserves to be in that situation. Idk what to do or how to even talk to him about it… I don’t want him to think that I’m hiding him from my family… when I’m more so hiding my family from him 🥺

Another thing I’m scared of is his family. They are very traditional. They still live in Delhi, India and are a very successful family. He also seems to avoid the topic of family similar to me and I’m worried as I am 90% sure that if they know about me they do NOT approve of me. I am not largely successful, do not come from a good family (as you can tell above) and am a plus size white woman who I’ll be honest can be quite rough around the edges…

I know that if we could live in a bubble of just us that we would be fine (but then again wouldn’t we all) , but our families present a problem that I am scared of. I don’t wanna lose out on the relationship of a lifetime because of narrow minded people.

What should I do? How should I talk to him about it? Idk the first thing about how to properly handle any of this.

Thank you for any advice!