A friend and hanging out

I have a friend that drinks too much and I told a few of them that also drink too much a friend of ours is drinking too much and she has kids that she has to keep up with but all they have to say is it’s on her but I told them I’m feeling like we’re enabling her by going out. I’ve come to the point where I don’t want to drink with any one of them because of it but none of my friends are seeing what I am. What can I tell them to get them to understand what I’m seeing.