Am I stupid? Advice?

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Was with a guy for 6 years (16-22) and had a baby with him at 20. Over our 6 years, he left me a bunch of times and we always got with other people for a few weeks, then got back together. He cheated on me with 3 girls in high school but I forgave him and he was really faithful and good the last 2 years. I always accused him of cheating which is why he left me the final time. A woman from work gave him toys for our baby and I accused him. He left and never looked back. A month later he got with a girl... 20 years old. He's 23. I tried to break them up but it didn't work. 4 months into their relationship, they got engaged. After being together a total of 8 months, they got
Married. Now him, her, and our baby all have his last name. But not me. 6 years and a baby and no ring. Family was against me giving baby his last name but he said I wouldn't regret it and I did. So I tried to get over him and went on some dates and had sex in the back of my car. They didn't talk to me after that. Idk what to do. How can I move on? It's Been a year. I'm desperate. At the last drop off I tried to have sex with him and he refused and got mad and left. How could he cheat on me but not wth me? Why does he love her so much? I hate this stupid girl.

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You really need to stop trying to get back with him and move on. This guy cheated on you 3 times that you KNOW of, so at the very least he did not respect you. It is very hard to trust someone after being cheated on 3 times. Even if you were to get back together you would still be worried about him cheating on you and I would not blame you. Plus he did not leave you because of this girl so your anger at her is misdirected.

The man is married. Stop trying to break them up that's incredibly stupid. You will find love with someone even better than him if you allow yourself to move on. Someone who will never cheat and you will never worry about.

No matter what name your son has you will always be his mother! My husband has his no good, deadbeat dad's name and he couldn't care less about the man. At least your son seems to have a dad who cares so what's the problem? Don't beat yourself up about that. Just put your efforts into being a good mom and letting your bitterness and obsession go. You sound crazy like from a lifetime movie. Move on or else some great guys will slip through your fingers while you are busy trying to rekindle a shitty relarionship.

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Their married leave them alone and move on.

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Time to grow up and move on.

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They are married now so leave him alone except for talking about your child. Don't stoop so low as to be a home wrecker, your better than that.

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Trust me, it's not the end of the world. You'll find someone for you. Maybe it just wasn't meant to be. Everything happens for a reason. Take care of your baby and be happy !

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You really need to just take some time for yourself and be single. Stop trying to break them up because that will only cause resentment and ruin what little relationship you have. Just take a break from men in general and find yourself.

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This is so unhealthy. You should really talk to a professional

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You have to learn to love yourself. To know that you are worth more then that. You are trying to replace something that you feel you lost. Start talking to a counselor. Someone who won't and can't judge you. I had to go through that because of how damaged I was. You have to learn to only trust yourself and not need anyone for anything. Know your worth before someone can start treating you like you deserve

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I have no advice but I didn't want to read and just go? I have a 9 month old and I couldn't begin to think what pain you must of gone through! I'm so sorry xxx

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