My bf and I have not been on the same page lately and we’ve been arguing a lot . It’s stuff that definitely can be avoided and/or worked on but instead of putting the effort in soon as he gets mad and just doesn’t think rationally . So we both say disrespectful stuff to eachother when mad but it’s not everytime we argue I guess just really big arguments. We will see things in totally different ways for example he thinks if he was to go back to jail I should stay with him and not move on . I feel like it’s selfish to keep going to jail and wanting me to stay . He gets disrespectful saying I’m a whore and he should’ve listened to such and such when they told him not to get with me (my own family he said said this when I was only 16) and he feels like baby moms and baby dads should be together and if we was to break up I shouldn’t get with nobody else . We argue because he gets smart about anything and when we have debates about something he doesn’t know how to just argue his point he gets angry and etc . I will tell him I want him to change the way he talks to me there be no reason to get frustrated all the time and he talks really agresssive and he’ll tell me I’m the only one that has a problem with the way he talks . I do alot more in he household while he just sits around on the phone and when he finally do something like clean the kitchen and living room he’ll be like “oh but I just cleaned this this that” like he wants a cookie . I personally feel like he could be doing more and I do more then him and sometimes i just want to chill around like him . He feels like he’s trying and im not. Pricing the little stuff that he’s trying to work on . And maybe that is true because I truly feel like he’s not trying on anything and I just notice all the wrong , lazy shit he’s doing . And because we are arguing so much I just don’t want to have sex as much anymore . He wants it literally everyday . And if he had the chance he would definitely do it 2 times a day EVERYDAY . we’ll skip one or two days and he’ll tell me that I never wanna do it . And say “I gotta watch porn again” or “im not going to keep watching porn im going to go get it somewhere else “ and I try to explain to him over and over again that it’s a mental thing . For one im not happy . I try to tell him the things that we can work on for me to get back to being “happy” but again he doesn’t put the effort in at all. For 2 we argue everyday so no im not going to be so damn horny all the time . And 3 im doing all the work around this house/kids so im going to be alittle tired . He doesn’t get that ! He thinks because I never wanna have sex with him then I must be having sex with someone else . And I’m not going to put all the blame on him . I for sure say some hurtful things that I do not mean . I say them because I want him to feel hurt , because im hurt . So I want him to feel pain just like how he’s bringing pain on me . Im working on it ! And maybe I don’t notice him trying I’ll try to see the positive instead of the negative all the time . But I just don’t know how else to get him to understand that im not happy at all and if we don’t get on the same page he’s going to lose me . (I’ve told him plenty of times I wanted to be done but he just won’t let me leave him)