Chronic back pain

For those of you with chronic pain, how do you feel on a day to day? When I was almost 19 me and my family had an altercation where I was kicked to the point I was purple, a couple months later I started having intense pain in my lower back. Ended up having a herniation on my L4-L5, so I had minimally invasive surgery to make that disc stop pinching my nerve. Anyways, I will always have back pain. Its not nearly as bad as it used to be, thank God. I have 2 beautiful babies, 2 under two lol so I’m up early with them. Im gonna start physical therapy soon. And massages. Anyone else also deals with keeping their spouse up at night bc I could dome night be up for 2 hrs + in a lot of pain. I hate taking ibuprofen but I do it if the pain is too bad, like right now. Its 2:45 am and my baby woke up to breastfeed at 12 am. My back pain has been so intense since, but I just want to sleep 😞. Any advice to deal with the pain?