This is going to be a lot, and I’m not sure it will make full sense. There’s just been a lot of small incidents, and I’m debating if I should report to HR. I was also recently hired for a different position and moved to the third floor so I don’t see this person as often.

I work at a university and have this male coworker who, I feel, is a little off. When I first met him, he struck up a conversation with me, and I didn’t quite mind. I thought to myself that I should make an effort to talk to people. Usually I just keep to myself. #introvert

But there was this one occasion when he made a comment about my accent, how it reminded him of a certain celebrity he could not remember the name of. He later told me he remembered - Sofia Vergaras. I’m am a little sensitive about my Hispanic accent, so I did not appreciate this comment, but I just let it go. I felt I would have overreacted had I addressed it. So after that I just wasn’t as enthused to talk with him. He’s made other comments like “Oh you seem real tired, you should try taking vitamins.” Who says that?… 😳 Every single time I pass by the lunch room and if he’s there, he wants to make conversation. And it’s not like a short “hey had a good weekend? Yes? Cool!” It’s just weird because the lunch room is right at the entrance of my then departments’ office. So sometimes I was just passing through to get to my office and keep working but he would just start asking questions. I DON’T want elaborate what I did over the weekend to just anyone. That’s my business. But it’s like he expects for you to engage and if you don’t, you’re rude.

I’ve keep it real short. Until eventually he asked me why I wasn’t “as conversational” I told him that I’m an introvert and don’t always want to chat and that I’m also busy.

At this point I just avoid him like the plague. He makes me uncomfortable. I make it a point to be on my cell phone any time he’s in the lunch room so he won’t want to ask questions. But sometimes I run into him at the most random places. Once he was right outside the women’s restroom. To make it more odd, the building isn’t even where he works out of. But that morning he had seen me there while I was setting up for an event. It felt like too much of a coincidence. Either way… I’m going to the RR and he asks if i had gotten anything for Father’s Day. DUDE, I’M GOING TO USE THE RR. Not the best time to strike up a convo…….

I’ve tried to avoid him more and more. The latest I just past though and said “hey” but did not make eye contact and kept walking. I was with other coworkers from my old office (i still work with them) and we left the door open because there was a lot of movement. I saw him staring at me through the open door with a very serious face on. Almost angry. WTH.

Other female coworkers have had their own experiences with him. They also feel uncomfortable. We just try to stick together whenever he’s around.