Hi! Posted this in response to another’s post and realized it was hella old so thought I’d post it here.

Last month, mine said “this is turning into a science experiment.” I’m like yes, yes it is. So I said I’d handle the ‘sciencey’ part and he agreed he’d handle the ‘fun’ part of it. So far… it’s been crickets 😂 I’m wondering when the fun will begin hahaha. I’m kinda joking, we still bd but nothing more exciting than the ordinary!! 👀 Just ordered some cheap lingerie off Amazon to add to the mix 👩🏻‍🔬🫧

I should preface this with the fact that my partner all of a sudden wants to ‘really try now’ haha I’m like ok, I’ll get right on that. (He had a boys weekend recently and he’s apparently the last to have kids and is now all👏about👏it👏)

We stopped preventing 2 years ago, had 2 chemicals, have been diligently tracking for 4 months now (OPKs, BBT etc), and loosely tracking for a year. I’ve had bloodwork done and an intra-V ultrasound already. It’s a lot. HSG is next on the roster, however I’d like him to get a semen analysis prior to that. It IS a total science experiment- physically and emotionally. I’m totally trying to make light of it but after month 2 of tracking (like a crazy person) and not conceiving, I was a wreck. I told him that I am giving TTC everything I have for an entire year, and if we don’t get pregnant, I’m going to live my life and not TTC anymore. (I am 40 and he is 43) He thinks that since he’s all of a sudden into TTC, that it should be easy peasy and it’ll happen naturally ✨ Haha I’m like bro, you late to the game! We’ve been trying! Hence the scientific phase we are in now. Some guys just don’t get it and mine especially doesn’t want to know *all the things* (science, anatomy, biology etc) and I’m like whatever, you have a year and that’s it. Whatever you put into it is what you put into it, that’s on you. I’ll be in my lab whenever you’re ready. 👩🏻‍🏫🔬🧪

*For those wondering if I really want a child, yes I do, but I also know that I will continue to have a full and wonderful life without one. So that’s where I’m at.

Thoughts, anecdotes, questions, positive vibes are welcome! Just trying to bring a little levity to this insane process that most of us are in. Sending all the 👶🏻✨ to all y’all 🤍