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Okay, so I worked half the day today. My boyfriend was off today he works full time as well. I’ve been communicating better like he says to do so he knows when to help me out because he just won’t do things for me. (It’s like having a child) I cooked an easy dinner, did the dishes before I cooked the dinner, fed our cats legitimately not even 10 minutes after I got home didn’t even get to pee I went straight to taking care of stuff. I ask him hey when the food is done can you wash the dishes that are left over. This was around 8. He tells me he will do it after the football game is over. 10 pm comes around and I’m like asking again are you going to do the dishes? He goes” Omg you’re on my ass. I will do the dishes after I watch my friend play his football game.” It’s 11 pm and the dishes have yet to even be touched. I simply do not understand why it’s so hard to just do it then. And if I complain about the dishes not being done until whenever midnight 11 pm. He will say “I could have just not done them at all” and idk what to respond to that. But I genuinely feel as if I’m barely asking for anything and he’s just so Invested into football and what his friends are doing.

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If he's in the middle of doing something (watching a game) and he says he'll do them after he's done or the game is over, you're in the wrong for pestering him about it while he's still doing that thing. That's just so naggy and annoying, and I'd be really frustrated if I told my husband I'd do something at a certain time and he kept bugging me to do it before then for no good reason. I get not wanting to stop what I'm doing to do chores, especially if they don't need to be done immediately. If he does them after like he said he would, what's the problem? Chill out or do them yourself if they need to be done right that second. 🤷‍♀️

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I'm curious why it matters how late in the evening he does them? I don't do many chores until night time. I mean, as long as he keeps his promise to do them that day, I wouldn't pressure him. If he's just lying to get you to stop asking, that's a whole nother issue.

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If he does them he does them. I don’t understand why it has to be set on your time and schedule. Relax.

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I think pestering him so frequently would put me off also however..if it got to the point they didn’t get done after him saying he will, I’m petty enough to leave them until they are done 😂

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As tempting as it may be to do if yourself, if you do that every time he’s going to pick up on that and his default response will always be “I’ll do it later” knowing damn well if he waits long enough, you’ll do it and he won’t have to. 
Hold him accountable. Give him until morning to do them, and if they’re still there, remind him again that he said he’d do the dishes. And just keep reminding him until he finally does it. But don’t cave. Eventually he’ll get sick of you “nagging” and he’ll do them. And if he doesn’t and they end up sitting there another day, he should sit him down and communicate to him that you were counting on him to do the dishes and you gave him ample time to tend to them and you’re not backing down - they will be there for him whenever he’s ready to pull his weight and contribute around the house. He’s just as responsible tending to chores as you are. And it’s only fair you try to divvy tasks up to make things easier in one another. Good luck!

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Ew, I’d go ahead and do them and i wouldn’t cook for him anymore, why? 
1) if he can’t be a team player- You don’t need to eat like the team.
2) I’m not your servant and anything you do is out of the kindness of your heart- You aren’t married.
Also, I would leave all his dishes in the sink and let HIM handle them.
Handle your needs and responsibilities and let him drown in his, he’ll get the concept💁🏼‍♀️

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