Grooming; from a man's prospective

My girlfriend and my mom have said I should write a book about what happened for a good 6 years of my life. I don't think enough shit happened for it to be a whole book and I'm not ready for everyone the dumb decisions I made as a child and also don't want people to say my parents were shit because I already know and they already know and we have a good relationship now. I have only ever talked about it with my gf, and parents and friends who were involved but I was groomed and it didn't happened how I thought grooming happened. I knew boys got raped too and boys get groomed. My dad was raped. But how I understood grooming, it was an older person making it obvious they want to be with you and getting you ready to have sex when you turn 18. I thought grooming was obvious which I am gonna sound a dumbass because I missed every red flag. My parents were alcoholics. I came from a broken home. They were always drunk and didn't take care of me so I started acting like a shit when I was a teenager. I did not respect their authority. How I saw it was they weren't my parents when they were drunk, they don't get to be my parents when sober. I met someone on Facebook, I'll call him T. T was 20 and friended me when I had just turned 14 which was a red flag. My grooming situation didn't happen how I thought. T didn't automatically show sexual interest in me. He acted like a friend and let me vent. Now that in older I realize T's game. He started by turning me even more against my parents. T said my parents are garbage and I deserved better but he also hyped me up to fight with them and challenge their authority more. We fought constantly. It was bad. I would get upset and go talk to T and he would hype me up to fight with them more. I moved in with T at 14 after 6 months of talking. My mom and dad said to this day it's their biggest regret. They apologized and said they should have tried to parent better and be better and at the time it seemed easier to give me to someone who could handle me. So T got what he wanted. T allowed me to bring my friends over and they were over all the time. We all hung out and I realize with T hanging out with us and acting like us, he was blending in with teens. So I forgot his age a lot of the time. T also introduced me to alcohol and drugs. I did not have an alcohol or drug addiction. I hated drinking. I hated the feeling of the pills he gave me but he would push alcohol on me daily. I was drunk every day because I felt pressured to and I have no proof but I believe when I was blacked out he would do things to me because I always felt weird in places when I came to. T also joked around sexually with us. Before tik tok was a thing it was musical.ly and he talked me and my friends into making sexual musical.lys at 15 and 16. And made sexual jokes and do things to him at a "joke". I also realize that was part of T's grooming plan. To make being sexual seem like he is always joking. Everything with T always had to turn sexual. Also when my parents wanted to make amends with me T never supported it and would put thoughts in my head. My mom thought forcing me to come back after a year would have been worse but she realizes she should have brought me home. Over time my friends stop coming to T's house. I didn't realize how uncomfortable he had made them. T also got me into porn and the second I turned 18 he wanted to make some extra money and said we should do an only fans and advertise to gay men. It was weird but he was my friend so I trusted him. He only used my body for the only films and made me do stuff he filmed that I don't want to talk about. I didn't realize anything was wrong until I met my girlfriend when I was 20. T didn't like her. I started hanging out with her and my friends without T and one day I realized I'm 20. The exact same age T was when he met me and I would never want to hang out with a bunch of teenagers. I wouldn't want them doing sexually things as jokes on me. I was still friends with T but decided to move out. He was really upset. I met up with my mom and we worked things out. Same with my dad. I got an apartment. Me and T were still friends but he was extremely upset I moved out. He got more and more weird and one day i just cut him off. Nothing even happened that day. I just realized I couldn't be his friend anymore. It wasn't until I got to therapy I realized T groomed me. T started harassing me and my friends since I stopped the friendship and says God awful things to me and my friends. For reasons me and my girlfriend and our son are living with my parents and they welcomed us. T actually found out a mocked me but I should have been living with my mom and dad as a teenager. Not with some grown man. Grooming didn't happen how I thought it would. It wasn't some person making it clear they liked me and getting me to wait until 18 to have sex with me. It was extreme manipulation, isolation, and gaslighting. I'm just glad I can teach my son that not all predators come up to you with a gold tooth creepy smile and lollypop. Some do come like they are genuine friends. Because of grooming I lost a majority of my teen years. But I'm glad I've reconciled with my parents and even if I don't get my years back, I'm hoping my story will help keep our son and future children safe. And anyone young on here, just be safe. My groomer gained my trust and that's where things got messed up. I still get random Text now numbers from T. He won't ever quit his harassment so I just ignore him. Although sometimes he pushes me over and I respond when I shouldn't. The situation did bring me closer to my family. I hate that I had to learn to sick twisted game groomers play personally but like I said. Hopefully when my son is older he learns from my experience.