be w/ a man for years who loves you unconditionally, opens your doors, validates your feelings, loves your cooking, loves your body, talks through your trauma and always listens, surprises you with gifts and vacations, always makes time for you and mildly says “fuck you, i love her” (to family who disapproves) —but has very strong cultural values and is strictly family oriented that his parents don’t approve of your relationship. you’ve never met them and never know if he will propose to you or be forced into an arranged marriage.