My mother is someone who often looks after my children (1yo twins), as i don’t really have anyone else to look after them.

However, from the very beginning she has been very dismissive of my wishes regarding my children.

When they started weaning, i was giving them small sips of water alongside their meals, and when I came home one day I found their water had been replaced with juice (like squash/cordial), and it wasn’t a weak mix it was very strong.

When I confronted her she went on a spiel of “I’ve raised X amount of children I know what I’m doing”

I have also caught her slipping them chocolate buttons, sweets and even cola.

I’ve told her time and time again, to only feed them what we provide in their lunch bag, to only give them water and to not disrespect me, but it almost seems like she follows the rules once and then goes back to her old ways.

The final straw for me was this past weekend, we held a party for the kids first birthday, and she spent the entire time critiquing my husband for everything he did, I then discovered their water bottles had been refilled with juice, she had been giving them “snacks” from the food table, which were hard for them to chew and they could have choked on (luckily they spat them out), and at one point I walked in the room to find her giving my son “a sip” from her glass of cola. With the excuse being “it’s sugar free”

I don’t give a f*ck if it’s sugar free or not, I don’t want my children having fizz!

How am I supposed to confront her if she’s just going to ignore me time and time again?