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Maybe you can take the lead and kiss him how you're wanting to be kissed and he will pick up and follow?
How do I put this delicately…
My husband and I have been together for four years and our baby just turned one in August. Given that we haven’t been together that long and we had a baby so quickly I knew there would be some ups and downs in our sex life but recently I dread sex and not because of the act itself but because of the kissing.
When we first got together I loved the way he would kiss me- it was so passionate and effortless. I can’t pinpoint when it started to happen but sometime in the past two years (so pregnancy and postpartum) our kissing just started to go off the rails. It’s like all of our collective worst or riskiest kissing moves got slowly mashed together into this weird, unpleasant repertoire we’re performing today.
I have NO IDEA how to tell my husband. I don’t want to make him feel bad since we’re already not having the best sex life but it’s definitely a contributing factor. I mean the way we kiss now is more like trying to stab a buttery potato in a bowl than trying to seduce a lover sooo it’s definitely not starting any fires.
Anyone else been here before? HELP
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You could always sit him down and ask if you could both work on spicing up things. 1) Go somewhere shopping for things to spice it up.2) Research kissing and sex positions. (This is where you get your answer)3) Go on a weekend get away with all this newfound knowledge and supplies. It may not be the best but it'll be a start in the right direction.You both must put in effort to move forward and if there are any negative feelings then it will be even harder. Try and be okay with failing. You got this!
My hubs was my first real bf when I was like 13-14 so we spent a lot of time making out when we were younger instead of boom booming. I realized a few years ago one day that we don’t spend half as much time kissing anymore. Since then, when we have a few mins or are cuddling or something, I’ll initiate a random make out sesh. Not to lead into anything but to make out just to make out. It’s interesting how sweet and intimate good kisses can be and how quickly we can forget that over the years! Since we’ve practiced more, I noticed we kiss more when we are actually intimate now. Kissing is magic!
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Ps. I wouldn’t hesitate to tell him, but make it cute. Like “let’s make out” or something like “I miss kissing you like this, I remember when you’d use to do this and I’d just die” like you can turn it into a compliment. ALSO, sometimes I think men can appreciate straightforwardness with that stuff 😂 we overestimate how well men are able to read us a lot. When I am straightforward w my hubs it actually makes him more confident bc then he can do the things I like and know he’s doing a good job which is ultimately what they want bc then it makes it better all around
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