My husband and I have been together for four years and our baby just turned one in August. Given that we haven’t been together that long and we had a baby so quickly I knew there would be some ups and downs in our sex life but recently I dread sex and not because of the act itself but because of the kissing.

When we first got together I loved the way he would kiss me- it was so passionate and effortless. I can’t pinpoint when it started to happen but sometime in the past two years (so pregnancy and postpartum) our kissing just started to go off the rails. It’s like all of our collective worst or riskiest kissing moves got slowly mashed together into this weird, unpleasant repertoire we’re performing today.

I have NO IDEA how to tell my husband. I don’t want to make him feel bad since we’re already not having the best sex life but it’s definitely a contributing factor. I mean the way we kiss now is more like trying to stab a buttery potato in a bowl than trying to seduce a lover sooo it’s definitely not starting any fires.

Anyone else been here before? HELP