Hello all I started Christian marriage

counseling with my wife we are several

months deep. Over the weekend I told my

wife we should go out to eat even though

we were financially struggling and she said

we should wait and I complimented her on

her decision. Yesterday my wife told me

she was going to dinner with one of her

female coworkers from work and she was

going to have to miss the next session.

didn't agree with this because there are

other hours in the day she can go so she

can still make our meeting to work on our

marriage. She told me why did I never say

anything about missing the other meetings

when she picked up a shift or when we

traveled. As far as the meetings go for me

I've always been able to attend the

meetings even when I had two jobs. Why

did she flip the issue back on me when I've

always been present? The other thing is

the other day I was cleaning the bathroom

downstairs before she left for work and she

asked me why was I cleaning and I told her

it's because it's dirty. She said well she

used it last night and it wasn't dirty and she

cleaned it last week. I said ok I understand

but it's got the ring of dirt where the water

sits and just continued to go back and forth

with me. Why would I sit and waste my time

cleaning the bathroom when they are other

things I could be doing? Now she's upset

because I wanted to wait to have a

conversation with a 3rd party instead of

discussing it with her. I didn't want her to

cut me off while talking amongst other

things and still all this happened.

Is she gaslighting me?