Is my bestfriend an asshole? :(

I had a miscarriage in July, it was absolutely awful and traumatic. I KNEW I was pregnant, I got positives on the tests on 5+ different brands of pregnancy tests, even a digital spelling out “pregnant”. I bought a little teddy bear and my partner and I immediately burst out crying when we found out. It came as a huge shock but we were ready. We starting planning our entire life’s around our little baby 💞 we were thinking of names and taking gender guesses. We started taking prenatals immediately and did everything right. I even booked in our 8 week scan to see our little darling. One random Monday night I started bleeding very heavy and at that moment we knew we lost it. I was 5 weeks. It was AWFUL. I cried myself to sleep, literally sobbing because my cramps were excruciating 💔 my partner walked to mine in the middle of the night in the cold to be with me. We held each other and cried. Holding my belly and taking to our baby. I then had a phone call with the dr and got told I was probably miscarrying. I had a scan 3 days later and yes, it was true, my baby had died inside of me 😔 I got bloods taken and left it at that. We were so distraught we named our baby, and had a send off with a little balloon. We have a “memory shelf” with all the tests and the teddy I bought and a candle and stuff. It destroys me every day. The grief hasn’t gotten easier and we are now into September, almost October. I put bearly anything on social media as to not “attention seek”. The mourning of my child wasn’t for public view. It was a deep, personal and excruciating pain between me and my partner…

Now here’s where my bestfriend comes into it. She supported me through the miscarriage but not much. She just wasn’t very affectionate… then when I told her I was trying again for my rainbow baby she straight up told me I shouldn’t have one and that it’s stupid as I could become a single mum and it was way too early after the miscarriage. It was SO hurtful, it really hurt my heart, but I let it slide.

Then the other day she messaged me saying she THINKS she’s miscarrying but wasn’t sure. Because she started cramping and bleeding and a clump came out. She’s on the pill tho and stopped taking it so naturally you bleed when you stop taking it. It’s also known to clot and cause cramping. She actually said that she personally doesn’t think it’s a mc but asked for advice. I was lovely to her (as I always am) I told her not to panic and she needs to find out if she’s pregnant first by taking a test. (pregnancy tests still pick up on HCG during a mc) the test was 100% negative. They don’t have a scan. And they have bloods booked but it’s ages away so there’s no way to confirm if it was.

So right now, as we know it, she’s not pregnant, never was and a clump came out. I’m gonna be honest, it DOES sound like a mc however there was no confirmation whatsoever. Nothing. In fact there was actually a test in front of them saying “no HCG”. I wake up the next morning and all over social media shes put up loads of posts about “a moment in my belly and lifetime in my heart” “we miss you little one” a pic of her partner kissing her “bump” and a thing on her sc saying about how nobody has messaged her about the “mc”. I was shocked. And confused. Seeing as they never once got confirmation and it could’ve just been the pill. She’s basically just building it up to be something it’s not. And completely attention seeking. But I seem to remember that when I was having a REAL true and painful miscarriage she couldn’t care less… and dis-encouraged me on ttc again. I am EXTREMELY hurt by her actions. I wouldn’t say she’s lying about it but she IS 100% exaggerating and creating a story line that doesn’t exist and never did. She had a negative test. It would have 100% been positive if a real miscarriage. No scan. And No bloods around the time. It’s insulting to me and every other real mama whose gone through a real mc. So far I’ve not said anything but… man am I getting close to. She’s my absolute bestfriend in the whole world. Shes been there through thick and thin. Is the best auntie to my child. And is like a sister so I don’t want to ruin the relationship, I love her and feel for her, but man oh man am I getting close to saying something. Am I the asshole? Or is she?