Does your partner meet most of your criteria?

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I finished a matchmaking show on Netflix in which the matchmaker said that finding 60-70% of our criteria in a partner is reasonable, anything more is simply unrealistic. 
I got to thinking about my own husband and how wonderful he is. Not perfect, but a really wonderful husband and father. So many little things he does means the world to me, and I’m so thankful to have someone like him, who has traits that I didn’t even think I’d want before getting married! 
Does your partner meet most of your “criteria”?

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100% he meets my criteria, even when we're fighting because he is my person 😍😍

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My husband probably only met 25-50% of my criteria. I had a freaking list 🤦‍♀️ so glad that I didn't end up with the attributes of guy that I listed. That list was not at all right for me.

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I think the only criteria my fiancé doesn’t meet is that he doesn’t like food. Makes dates hard but other than that he’s wonderful

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I don’t think I ever really had criteria. I dated people based on their personality. I guess I wanted them to be funny and make me laugh, and I got that with my husband. But honestly that’s the only thing I cared about lol

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Before we got serious I told him that we needed to talk about the big stuff so we aren’t wasting our time. We made lists and sat down to talk. I only had one thing and that was I don’t want kids. Ever. And he had the same thing on his list too lol. That was both our one and only thing.

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Yes he does. I don't think it's unreasonable to expect a partner to meet 70% of your criteria as long as your criteria isn't rediculous. 
My husband is at 100%.

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That matchmaker is on crack lol

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Haha I know what show you’re talking about! If I had the kind of criteria some of the people on the show had, maybe my partner wouldn’t meet them all. In a way I didn’t have these kind of « criteria », I dated based on personality and went from there. My fiancé is amazing so he actually went beyond any criteria I may have had in my mind at the time.

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There is so much more to having a successful relationship than criteria though. For example my boyfriend meets 100% of my boxes and he checks all of them. But when you get into a long term relationship you start learning that person and you get comfortable with eachother. For example my boyfriend has an anger problem, not physical but sometimes he gets mad for no reason,  sometimes he’s OCD about the decisions I make, sometimes he doesn’t hardly listen to me, sometimes I need a hug and he doesn’t want to be touched. Sometimes he is selfish or bratty, but at the same time I can’t imagine my life without him. He helps me with so much, he’s always there for me, every bad situation I’m in he is with me 1000% percent and probably the most reliable person I know. 
When you think about it, I think we all have things about ourselves we don’t like or wish we are different. I have bad habbits I’m trying to break, I have emotional issues I’m trying to get out of. So why should my partner be 100% comparable with me if even I’m not compatible with me sometimes? Sometimes a successful relationship is not about comparability or how many boxes they check, it’s just about being happy with someone and not leaving or giving up on someone no matter what

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Definately! The only big differences we have are taste in food, music, and the types of shows we watch. We have commonalities in each of those, but we also have things within those groups that we don't share because the other is NOT interested. For example, my husband is really into incredibly spicy things and I hate most seasonings and food. My husband is also really into 80s music and I'm into metal. We have common genres of music that we like to listen to together, but on our own we listen to our own stuff. My husband is into shows like Breaking Bad, Rick and Morty, and Flash while I'm into DIY shows, homesteading, and cooking. He's a great dad, wonderful husband, cooks, helps out around the house, kills bugs for me, is romantic, thoughtful, beyond compassionate, and is all around and amazing man. He had exceeded my criteria. Actually a few years after we started going out I found a "list" I made right before we starred dating at 15 of what the perfect man would be like and he meets everything on that list other than being an avid reader and being able to fix everything that could wrong with a car.

Does your partner meet most of your criteria?

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