Helping Husband through PPD

My previous post was deleted probably because of all the rude comments.

My husband told me yesterday he is suicidal and wants to seek therapy in the middle of the chaotic evening with our crying/sick kids. So, I didn’t react well because to me it sounded like a copout. He does play a lot of video games as a me-time. But it seems like it’s never enough.

We did talk about it a little, I apologized for my reaction and I said I’m scared. Because I am. He tells me he doesn’t want to come home from work because of the kids. Our toddler is annoying him because she doesn’t listen so he’s frustrated and feels no more love for her. He tells me having kids was a huge mistake and the biggest regret. Even though I had told him 1 child is enough. I think the biggest mistake here are his Expectations. He expects babies to only sleep otherwise their an inconvenience. And my 3 year old supposed to have no tantrums, no crying. The normal phase. I suggested he needs to read about what his children go through in development so he’s better prepared what to expect and how to deal with it. But he refuses to even do this.

He doesn’t know that I know but he did have a depressive episode 9 years ago after a break up with his ex of just 3 months. Seeking therapy helped him. So I’m hoping it will do the job.

I am also having a hard time him taking me seriously, to work as a team, he won’t talk to me ! I don’t know if this is normal, but he’s my husband, he’s supposed to come to me to solve things together. At this point I feel helpless, I feel scared he might hurt himself, my children are innocent and don’t deserve the resentment their father does. I don’t know who to turn to. But my biggest concern is my husband becomes euphoric quickly and hits rock bottom just as fast . And our children are going to cry and yell and scream and HE needs to learn how to cope with it instead of resorting to the worst.