Why isn’t getting pregnant as easy as they tell you it is when you’re young?

The frustration just keeps building and building. I try to always stay positive and look at the bright side of things, but after 3+ years TTC naturally and 2 IUIs (one resulting in a MC and the other unsuccessful period) I’m at my wits end!! I keep trying to figure out how I go from a chance of conceiving TWINS, to not even a singleton? I don’t understand. I’m in perfect reproductive health, healthier than most women in my age group, and this is still so effing hard!! My fiancé is also fine reproductively. Growing up, it was always emphasized that “it only takes ONE TIME to get pregnant”. We’re good deserving people. It frustrates me when I see all kinds of drug addicts and undeserving people with children/ pregnant. Why them and not us? I’m so unbelievably over one disappointment after the next!! When will it be OUR time? My heart breaks seeing the disappointment and sadness on the face of the man I love. It breaks my heart wondering why my body isn’t doing what it’s supposed to. It breaks my heart to continue to yearn for something that’s starting to feel intangible. Ugh!!! Who can relate???

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For real.. I genuinely believed I was super fertile when I started TTC. The process has humbled me significantly lol

ka

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Honestly one thing that has helped me is don’t compare yourself to those “undeserving people” I used to do the same but at the end of the day it’s about the fact that those children were meant to be born. These babies that we want so bad will eventually grow up to be there own person, essentially they’re not necessarily “for us”. I’ve been ttc 5 years so ik how hard it is I just keep telling myself God will make it happen when my baby is meant to come… it’s so hard though 😩 wishing us both the best

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Thank you for posting this. You put all my thoughts into words. My husband and I have been together for 12 years. We started dating in high school and always knew we wanted to wait until our later 20s to start TTC. Our whole relationship we’ve been super careful because of what I was told growing up. “It only takes ONE time” Feels like my family was just using scare tactics to keep me from being a young mom. We’ve been TTC now for over a year. I miscarried last summer after 9 weeks. I feel so hopeless. At the start of our TTC journey, my husband was nervous to become a dad. But now after all this time of TTC, I can see the pure sadness and worry in his face each time AF arrives. He stays strong for me but I know we are both equally hurting. It’s just so discouraging and heartbreaking. You are not alone! Baby dust to us all ✨ 🥹

An

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You took the words out of my mouth I'm sorry you are going through this, we have been trying for 6 years naturally and we just got married going to the doctor soon, Baby dust I'm with you and wish nothing but the best