First Time Advice - HOW LONG WILL IT HURT?

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So my husband and I just got married, we are very young and we waited til we were married to have sex. We even waited after our honeymoon to try because we both just want to relax and have fun doing other stuff. (Neither of us are super sexual but we are very in love and have been since 15)
However, we got back and we finally attempted - it hurt like CRAZY!
It was the most uncomfortable thing I’ve ever gone through - AND HE WAS ONLY USING FINGERS! 
I was turned on before we tried, and I wanted to do it! But I couldn’t.
I was bleeding and crying and had to go to the bathroom to talk myself down. It was awful. 
We tried the next day and he was so patient and talked through it the whole time until I finally relaxed and was completely stretched out. Then it finally didn’t hurt and it started to feel alright. We were using lube and a fake dong same size as him. so he could make he was focused on talking to me instead of his movements lol. He’s an angel. 
I’ve got nothing to compare it to but it seemed freakin huge and uncomfy to me!😂
QUESTIONS: when we try again, will there be more blood? 
Once I’m fully stretched out that first time, will I have to go through it again or will it be easier now?
How many times do I have to stretch to be comfortable? 
What can I do to ease the pain besides lube?
Thanks so much in advance girls💕

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Go at your pace, and after a few rounds, things will get the way they need to be & you’ll be able to enjoy it completely. It takes a minute, it probably hurts more cuz your hymen was intact. Your hymen can break from other things like bike riding etc, but if you’re bleeding that means it wasn’t broken & is also prob why it hurts so much. If it becomes unbearable you may want to look up a thing called vaginitis or something along those lines- it’s a condition. 
Anyway, good luck!

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To answer your questions you may bleed again as long as your hymn is not completely separated. 
As you keep having sex it will get easier an pain will turn to pleasure try not to concentrate on pain , concentrate on pleasure and what you like about your husband. For me I concentrate on how he is turned on and how i get the feeling of fullness and getting dominated but this will not come for a while 
As anything else u need to practice

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Personally the first time didn’t hurt for me and there wasn’t any blood. But every woman is different and it doesn’t make you any different to anyone else in your situation! Try going very very slow! And also try using lube, even if you were turned on and naturally wet, lube can help so much! Talk to your partner and just tell him to go very slow! After the first time or sometimes the second time, the pain should disappear and you’ll learn to enjoy it! Sex feels so good and once you’ve gotten past this stage you should love it. But not everyone’s the same! Just take your time and move at a pace that suits you. Best wishes x

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Hubby and I waited until marriage too. Definitely work on foreplay A LOT. Try your best to get out of your head, and relax. It’ll get better with time. Redirect his hands to where it feels good. I know it can be difficult to get comfortable enough, but once you can be comfortable, it gets a lot better☺️ also, you being on top and being able to control things may help with pain too.

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Hey darl!
It hurt the first few times it happened for me too! I bled bad for the first 2/3 times but was unfortunately down to the situation. Biggest advice is make sure you are 100% comfortable and doing it for you and not for him! Make sure your relaxed! Also a fake doesn’t always help as I find it muchhhh more painful, so maybe just try slowly 💜

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You know I was the same, it hurt. Some ppl say it isn’t painful their first time but that was def not the case for me
My now husband and I tried sooo many times when we were young and we just couldn’t get it in and then it killed the mood. After a lot of trying one day, we finally got it. I bled the first time, just a bit, and the next day too was spotting blood and very sore. Maybe a week later had sex again and it still hurt but not nearly as bad as the first time bc it was almost unbearably uncomfortable first time. To be honest even years after, it felt good but was uncomfortable at first, esp when he first got it in. Til I had my daughter. Now it feels great. No discomfort whatsoever. We are kind of dif than most I think, my husband prefers blow jobs so that was our usual pre-baby (and still is), we had actual sex like once or twice a month or so. If we did more often I bet it wouldn’t have been as uncomfortable, so maybe that was part of my issue 
I think I was just too tight and he is on the bigger side so it just made things uncomfortable. Maybe that’s what’s going on for you guys. My advice is use lube (we like coconut oil) and do the best you can to relax. It def makes a dif but might not take the uncomfortable feeling away fully. But maybe it’s just new to your body so you’ll adjust just fine and it won’t be an issue! But even if it was, it shouldn’t be nearly as painful as your first few times!! Just a bit of discomfort when he enters

First Time Advice - HOW LONG WILL IT HURT?

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