Nervous of telling my mum

So to start with I am 25 years old, an adult. But I am scared of telling my mum I m pregnant again.

Sorry this is a long one!

So I have an almost 4 year old son.

I was 21 when I was pregnant with him. I was petrified of telling my mother as she very much believes career is important and I was fresh out of college.

I d been with my partner for 3 years at the time, we lived together and were very happy, never fell out.

I knew he was the person I was going to spend the rest of my life with. My son wasn’t planned but we had spoke about having kids soon.

Anyway I told her very early on over the phone (she lives 300+ miles away) she was extremely disappointed, started crying and very much made it about her, she wanted me to get an abortion. But I told her there was no way that was happening. Over the course of my pregnancy I felt like I couldn’t really turn to her for advice, she stressed me out constantly, we had to move as we were living in a one bedroom flat. But myself and my partner did it all.

My dad I could tell was excited but pretended not to be as she would have been mad at him.

They both blackmailed me to move home, offering me a nice car, a house the lot.

Where they live is a tiny town at the top of Scotland where the closest hospital was 100 miles away, which was obviously very silly.

My son was born and they love him to bits and regularly come down to us to visit and be with him. They are the best grandparents you could imagine!

Fast forward to summer this year, I was pregnant and miscarrying when they were visiting, it’s the most time I ve ever felt like I needed my mum, she was extremely understanding as she had been a few of them herself. She made one comment about how she thought we would have waited until we had a house until we started trying,( we are in a top floor flat) but other than that she was so good about it, I told her I was scared to tell her but she said oh why don’t be scared to tell me.

I know my dad was close by as she was being really nice.

I told her the dr gave me the clear to try again but she was sure I had to wait 3 months.

Anyway we tried right away and I fell pregnant just weeks later. It’s with the same father so we ve been together 7 years now, very stable and extremely happy! The only thing we need to do is move out to a house before baby arrives but it will happen once we find the right house!

My 12 week scan is next week and we plan on telling everyone after that but I m just so scared of her reaction.

I have 2 younger sisters that will be delighted and I hope there reaction will help lighten her up but I just don’t want the stress of her disappointment. I half thought of just telling dad and getting him to tell her but I don’t want to hurt her feelings to about me not telling her myself. I have no clue for what to do.

Sorry again about the length! Lol ❤️