What do you do to help yourself keep you after you become a parent?

Question

I want to do something for me and help keep some of myself. I’m in school and have 3 kids. My oldest is 10 and I was back to being more myself and then we have a 2 year old and a 3 week old. I love being a mom but it feels like I have no life at all outside of it. What hobbies or things do you like to do that help you still be you?

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￼ If you can, have someone watch your kids while you go and hang out with your friends, go to the movies, go to a concert, museum, restaurant, etc.… Whatever you would’ve done before you had children. Just take some time for yourself do that if you can. If you do not have access to a babysitter, do these things with your children. Of course, it is not exactly the same, but it will help you feel as though you’re including your children in some of the things you like to do instead of just including yourself in your children’s lives only. Balance is key!
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After my daughter goes to sleep, I give myself at least 30 minutes for hobbies/relaxation before starting chores or anything else.
This could be calling a friend/family member to catch up, date night with my husband, a workout, a craft (I like to sew), a spa night, read a book, etc. The key is consistency.

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Hanging out with other moms. I have coffee mornings a couple times a week with my mom group, play dates in the afternoons, get togethers or dinners with family friends. Any time I plan on going out to do something with the kids like the zoo or aquarium I invite some friends along.

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That’s why I kept my job that I struggled to secure in the first place 
I love driving so cleaning my car and keeping her beautiful and blingged
Is something I enjoy doing
Pampering myself with little pedicures, haircut, facials etx ( even if done at home )
Date nights are important ( again even if at home ).  - not with a newborn 
Give yourself time :)

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I joined a MOPS (mothers of preschoolers) group that I really enjoy. And then working out, is my only other real me time.

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Honestly I have struggled with this for the longest time. Even if I did dive into a hobby, I was still doing it at home around my kids so that wasn't working for me lol. However our oldest just started kindergarten so I joined the PTO, and he had made 2 best friends in pre-k so those moms and I get together every other week for a play date. And just doing that has helped me tremendously already.

What do you do to help yourself keep you after you become a parent?

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