Hey ya’ll I need some help. I have what some say is a larger family. We are a family of 6 but always have my kids friends with us. I was raised when you have a kids friend with you, you treat them as your own. You get your kids food, you buy them some, your having dinner, you feed them, if they are over that day they are invited to dinner. My husband was raised you can have friends over but they leave before meal time. We have been leading our family more like I was raised and the kids love it because they love having their friends over and on the go with us. We’ve never had issues until my oldest started expanding friends groups. The new friends don’t seem to have a limit. We go to get ice cream they try to order $10-$15 ice creams vs my kids $5 ice creams. We say we’re going to grab a soda at a drive through they get large coffees with extras added. I’m not saying we won’t include them but If they ask for those my younger kids want the expensive things even though they know we normally don’t get those. I’ve tried to verbally set limits before taking them but it seems like when we get to our location the kids didn’t listen. How do I address this without “embarrassing” my oldest? Any advice? How do you handle it in your home?