We are getting told what and how to do things with our kids, my F-I-L suggests to hit our kids instead of using timeout in another room. My M-I-L tells him to butt out and my husband told him, hitting will never happen and needs to stop giving advice on how to parent. (Especially, from a man who admits he was only working instead of raising his own children)

Then, there are my parents, somehow keep telling me to spank my toddler so she understands and should feel the fear. Coming from my parents who physically beat us and deny it, that it never happened as kids.

Like what the actual hell?! I’m not passing this disgusting, abuse to my children so they can fear me. I want them to be respectful, independent, loving individuals who I truly hope can always come to me to confide.

I’ve been on the other side, so that’s not how I want my children to feel.

I told my parents, the one thing I will never do is raise a hand on them. And they get passive aggressive by muttering “ok, then let them be brats and dance around your nose”

I’m so sick of it, it gets me so angry that they still think physical violence-even a spank is normal and that I have to defend my parenting.