My s/o (30) and I (27) have been together 7 years. I noticed he won’t get an erection anymore by just foreplay or by just giving me oral. I actually have to give him oral for him to even get hard enough to have sex. For context, he used to get hard without me having to put forth any effort. Like just kissing, seeing me naked, showering together, oral sex even just walking around the house doing absolutely nothing.

When I’ve brought it up he says it’s because we’ve been together 7 years and that’s just how it is. That no one who’s been with someone for this long is just going to get hard for no reason, because he’s already had sex with me whereas someone who hasn’t had me before will get hard because they’ve never been intimate with me before. I don’t see how this is true seeing that a few years in to the relationship we didn’t have this issue… and by then we’d already been intimate plenty of times.

Is this actually normal? Or is he possibly just bored with the relationship?

I’m not an ugly person at all. Actually quite the opposite. I’d consider myself fairly attractive and I have a nice physique as well. Not to suck my own tit but many men find me attractive.

So my questions is: is this common for those who have been together for years? Or is that an excuse?

This is my longest relationship so I don’t have much to compare it to. Just looking to hear others’ experiences and opinions.