My sister is married to a man who gets involved in me and my sisters relationship. We have a love/hate relstionship, we have always had disagreements but always gotten along. Like you can not hurt my sister and she is the same with me.

So a few instances of disagreements= my Mum sold her house and was doing up her new one, she isnt rich but she had spare cash and bought her home cash. I dont care about what would be left to us in the will, as long as she is happy. So they were saying how irresponsible oir Mum was so I had to say... what does it matter to you? Stop trying to control our mum. She doesnt ask for loans and isnt in silly debt etc etc. So keep your opinions to yourself.

She was getting married and my mum gave her husband our Nans engagement ring, my sister wanted to change everything about the engagement ring. Setting, colour just everything. I was also getting engaged the same time, so I got my Nans wedding ring. So I had to say well why dont you buy a new engagement ring if you are going to change everything about the ring?

So the argument that caused a stir was-

Our Mums 60th. My husband was in work and they had arranged a table in a place in the local city. Everyone was there, I drove as our Mum is disabled and has difficulty on public transport and would be too far to walk. Taxis are too expensive the amount of taxis would have meant it would have been about £150 on just taxis as it was from home to place , from place to sisters house then sisters house home, my husband was in work.

So I drove I got berated by my brother in law at the fact I was driving and not drinking, but let it slide.

We got back to my sisters place and they ordered a chinese banquet. My brother asked for a bit of mine, so I gave him some and a bit fell on the rug from my brothers plate, I didnt notice.

My brorher in law began screaming at me, I mean screaming at me about me being entitled spoilt and a bitch. I said I am sorey for the rug, I will buy you . New one. Then he proceeded to tell me to get out of his house.

So I did, my mum came with me. I was no angel, I shouted back

So for 3 years I have never stepped foot in their house.

I did go to their daughters birthday party again my husband was in work.

I have never had an apology and feel like he was picking on me as I was on my own. My sister has never apologised but sisters. My brother who was there was like it was my fault blah blah blah... but I was a woman on their own.

So havent been there in 3 years, my Mum was invited down last week, i never went i went out with my husband and my son and supposedly i was invited, bare in mind i havent been imvited down personally. She presumed i would come.

So supposedly we have been invited for christmas, I work as a nurse and not got my christmas off duty as yet but she hasnt physically aaked me. She has supoosedly said it to my mum.

My mum is butt hurt over this argument, I do understand why. Her family was split apart by ome argument. But not sure what to do. I am very very stubborn if you hadnt guesses.