So I’m a 29F and he’s a 29M, we met around 6 months ago while on holiday on his last night there so we only really spent a very short time together. We exchanged socials and numbers and he said he would come and see me (I didn’t believe this at all, I just thought he was infatuated with me and he would forget all about me when he returned home). He continued to FaceTime me for the rest of my time on holiday.

We live 4000 miles away from each other with a 5 hour time difference so it’s definitely challenging! I honestly never thought it would be anything at the time or we would even see each other again. He was really consistent, messaging and FaceTiming, talking about the future and talking about coming to visit me.

He won me over and we started dating exclusively. Fast forward 3 months in and he flew over and spent a week with me. It was amazing, he spoilt me and treated me like a princess.

So more recently I have been struggling a little bit. He has his own businesses, he’s very driven and ambitious which is absolutely so sexy to me. I would say definitely a workaholic. However, recently this has really started to take off and his workload has been A-LOT busier. The texts and calls have noticeably decreased, the time difference obviously makes catching up a lot harder. I am really understanding because he works crazy hours, I want him to be successful and I want to support him but it feels so lonely sometimes. He ALWAYS, every day without fail messages me good morning but there are a few weeks where there has been little else in terms of communication. As a self-confessed over thinker who has attachment issues (I am seeking therapy for this) I find myself wondering if he is losing interest. I have asked him and he told me he’s definitely still in this, just really busy and he’s coming to see me soon. He was a little bit confused I think and asked me why I was saying this. We did talk further and I actually for once decided to communicate what I needed (I have found this hard in previous relationships) I told him that I need a little bit more from him, like a FaceTime once a week to catch up and a check in message a day is enough just to feel like I am a priority too. He said sorry and he will be better at communicating with me (yesterday he definitely made more effort!). I don’t think I’m asking for too much?

I’m very scared about investing into this, I like him a lot more than I thought I would and I’m finding the distance and the emotions it brings difficult to navigate.

How do I learn to deal with this better?

Surely, a man wouldn’t travel 4000 miles to see someone, and is planing to come again, if he didn’t see some kind of future with them right? Wouldn’t finding someone in his city/country be so much easier!

Can men genuinely be loyal while in a LDR?

I just don’t want to waste my time or end up heartbroken (I know this is a risk in any relationship though)