I am a FTM to a 3.5 week old little girl. We are having an incredibly hard time soothing her and getting her to sleep. I’ve read the happiest baby, know all about the 5s, read about PuRple crying and colic, read a ton of online articles and i feel that I’ve tried everything and she’s still inconsolable for long periods (this morning, basically from 4am - 4pm, with a one hour nap and one 15 minute nap in that time frame).

I know she’s probably overtired so we’ve tried to tune in to her sleepy cues and give her a nap but she won’t sleep. We may quiet her for a minute after we try all the soothing strategies but then she’ll start fussing / crying again within a few minutes of putting her down. She doesn’t seem to like to be carried in a carrier or held against me. I don’t think anything’s physically wrong with her (I can usually tell when she’s fussing bc she has to poop or has gas), we offer a bottle but she doesn’t always take it. She’s growing normally and nothings physically wrong with her as far as I know.

I feel like such a bad mom, I can’t crack the code to get her to sleep and soothe. I’m exhausted and frustrated and spend all day and night caring for her and trying to soothe her that I don’t have time to care for myself (sleep, shower, eat).

Anyone who’s gone through this, how did you cope? Did anything work?