My husband and I have been married for 5 years, together 6, and we each have one son and no kids together. His son was 9 when we got married and mine was 4. I’ve always struggled with the relationship with my stepson and I was hoping it’d get better as he got older but it’s only getting worse. He can be extremely disrespectful, he can be a complete bully to my son, and he’s spoiled rotten by everyone in his life. Hes also very manipulative and tries to parent my son, even though I’ve told him to back off and let us do the parenting. My son is the easiest kid to be around, he has great manners, he’s respectful to everyone, and he’s just a nice kid. My husband is completely blind to my stepsons behavior and way too hard on my son, who doesn’t deserve it, and thinks I’m just being dramatic about it. I legit feel like I’m walking on egg shells when my stepson is visiting us, which is every other week for 4-5 days. I feel like I’m constantly listening to how he’s treating my son. My husband and I fight about his sons attitude and his blatant disrespect for me and how he treats my son constantly, it’s the same fight over and over again. I finally reached my breaking point a few weeks ago and told him I’m one more of the same conversation away from telling him I want to separate for awhile if he can’t have my back and make his son respect me in my home. He’s devastated and I don’t know how to fix this. I wasn’t trying to give him an ultimatum, but I realize now that that’s how it came across. We’ve done counseling but it didn’t seem to help. Has anyone been in this situation and can give me some advice? We literally have no other problems in our marriage and I love him so much, but the resentment and guilt I feel for how I feel about his son are killing me.