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Your kind if stuck until you start supporting yourself financially.
Advice from anyone that had a controlling mom?
I’m 19, almost 20. My Eastern European mom has always been strict. In high school, I could never go out on school nights, and had to be home by 8:00 on weekends (only got to go out once a month). She tracks my whole family on Life360 (I have to keep it since my parents are financially supporting me still). Now that I’m in college, I can see my friends whenever, but I have to call my mom 1-2 times every day. When I go out at night with friends, I have to leave my phone (yes very dangerous). I still have to come home almost every other weekend, and though we contractually have to pay my rent through the summer, she expects me to live at home during every break. I have an older sister 23, who is a nurse living at home to save up money. She goes out “whenever she wants” but I can still tell that my mom alters her plans to be “safer” like coming back at a different time or telling her to ask friends to change details of the plans. Now that the semester is coming to an end, I realize my winter break is going to be me having to spend every day with my mom, and maybe seeing friends once a week if she doesn’t get angry at the idea. She is lonely and wants to make constant plans with my sister and me (and we have to be there when she makes plans with her friends too). I never see myself having total freedom. Any advice out there from people that have experienced similar situations?
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Figure out how to support yourself. At least pay for your own phone so she can’t force you to leave it or make you keep a tracking app on it. Have a talk with your mom about giving you some freedom. I always had a curfew and had to tell my parents everything I was doing. Luckily, I graduated college long before my parents had smart phones. I had a decent bit of freedom as long as I ran all their errands and let them know where I was and who I was with. However, I hated all their rules, so I moved out at 18. I went to college in a different town. I paid my own rent, utilities, groceries, gas, and whatever I wanted to do. My parents continued to pay for my phone, car insurance and upkeep, and medical insurance and bills. I was able to do whatever I wanted. It made our relationship better. I still had to do certain things they told me to like not go anywhere in weather they thought was too dangerous due to the car being theirs and them paying the insurance.
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