So my husband and I agreed that after we got married, we would stop ‘preventing’ a baby when we went on our honeymoon. In July I came off the pill and in September we stopped using contraceptives altogether.

My husband doesn’t want to say we’re ’trying’ because he doesn’t wanna put that strain on our relationship. Our friends were a prime example of how toxic things can get when trying for a baby and he didn’t want that for us.

Last month I suffered a Chemical Pregnancy which came to a head, conveniently, whilst we were on our honeymoon. That hit me hard because the first month of using no protection and we’d effectively gotten pregnant. Just wasn’t meant to be which I have managed to get my head around. He was disappointed too obviously, but I know that I was more so than him. We both want a baby, both ready for one but I know I want it more. It literally dominates my everyday waking thought.

I want to believe what I preach to people about how it’ll happen when it’s supposed to yet I am constantly fretting over the small details and get down and dejected when my husband doesn’t want to have sex. I don’t want to get in my head about it but I can’t seem to avoid it.

Any advice on how I can chill out would be really appreciated.