22 and Controlled.

Alexis

i’m a 22 y/o female whose only ever brought one guy home to my parents(my bf who i’ve been on and off with for 5 years) My parents love my boyfriend, they love having him around. My boyfriend means so much to me but because my parents are so strict about things we never have alone time. I don’t just mean sex. We literally cannot have deep conversations because we constantly have to be around my parents. I’m “allowed” to go to his place but not allowed to sleepover because it’s considered disrespectful. He can sleepover but he has to sleep in the guest bedroom. Because of the constant surveillance it’s putting a toll on our relationship, and we act like friends more than bf/gf. We cannot show any affection with each other. Life together just seems so routinely now because we can only do so much, go out to eat (which is the only time we’re ever alone) then come back to my house and literally hangout with my parents. My man is nothing but patient and sweet but this is killing me. My parents are amazing and give me free will and respect me with everything else but this. I have been nothing but respectful in front of them, I try not to let them know too much of my relationship business because apparently it affects them so much too as if they’re the ones dating my bf it’s weird. I just don’t know what other option is there but move out or put up with it.

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Gl

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You’re an adult. They need to respect your choices. Personally at that rate I would move out if it’s a viable option! that sounds super frustrating!!!

Ra

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Yes it’s their house their rules but you’re an adult at the end of the day. Yes , having sex in your parents house is along the lines of disrespectful but all that other stuff .. they need to chill out on. You’re 22 for cry sakes. They should respect that. If you could move out … I would. The strictness will never stop.

Re

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You could try to talk to them about it, I mean it can’t hurt just let ask them what it would take for some more freedom in your relationship & see what they say. Other than that the only option is to move out maybe into a place with your boyfriend?

Mo

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Unfortunately, it’s their house and their rules, so the best idea is to move out. Then you have all the freedom in the world to do whatever you want.

Ta

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Do you contribute to the home? If you are still dependent than honestly you have to follow their rules…. The only solution would be to move out. Especially if your parents are religious. There’s no way around that

Ta

Taylor • Nov 8, 2022
If that’s the case than a conversation wouldn’t hurt. You are a grown woman and sounds like you handle your business. Open communication and being honest to your parents could help the situation or still just moving out if you can.. if not than you should try to have a talk

Al

Alexis • Nov 8, 2022
i give them no issues whatsoever and are super reliable they are just ridiculous

Al

Alexis • Nov 8, 2022
we aren’t religious, i pay my bills, clean the house and take care of my brother when needed.

As

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I think moving out is your most viable option. If you have enough money stashed away / set aside, etc to help pay your bills, then you should pack up and move put so you can have your own space and time with your bf. I can almost guarantee it that your parents being as strict as they can be is what is causing this to be on again, off again and I think having your own place to yourself is going to be the healthier option in the long run for both you and him.