How does that work with you and your partner? I know that’s a stupid question but I want to see and understand how it is for everyone else.

When my husband wants to do anything it’s always a way to bring us closer together but it’s normally when the kids are asleep ( of course) and it’s just him that gets the pleasure and I’m the one doing the work. Like tonight he asked me if I wanted to do anything to night bc it’s been like two days so I said yeah okay ( the kids were still awake ) so it gets to be about 11 and my 2 year old is fighting it hard , my 1 year old is already asleep in the crib and my 2 month old is asleep in his crib. The 2 year old is normally good at falling asleep but the time change didn’t work in his favor so my husband keeps asking me if he’s asleep and I say no bc he’s not. And finally he’s asleep so I asked him what he wants to do he didn’t wanna have sex bc he doesn’t wanna get me pregnant again since I haven’t been back to the doctor which I understand so I just get him off and then I get to go to bed with the kids. Is it normal to get your spouse off and then they don’t even want to try to get you there ?( no I didn’t ask him to sometimes he should just do it in my opinion )