So background, my partner and I have been together for almost 5 years. We always had a great sex life. Within the last two-three months it’s completely changed. I’m lucky if he wants to be with me once or twice a month. I wish I was kidding. Something changed, idk what that is. He wanted sex all the time now I can beg and he won’t. I try and try and try to ask if he’s under stress and that’s like changing his sex drive or if somethings wrong he says no he’s fine he’s just this or that makes so many excuses. He sits and plays games at night and uses fhat as an excuse most of the time. I tell him like you could make some time and be with me if you wanted too but you don’t. And please keep in mind he’s always been a gamer and he still always wanted sex. Something’s changed within the last 3 months. He’s hardly affectionate and he’s ALWAYS affectionate that’s his love language and that’s how he is. Overly affectionate that’s changed also. He’s just not the same. I don’t suspect cheating truly I don’t. But like what else could be going on? The thing is he won’t tell me anything jusg says he’s fine and will give me excuses as to why he’s not affectionate lovey or intimate with me.

The very few times we have had sex in the last few months it looks like he’s trying to hard to focus on me. Like it’s so different. Idk if he’s just not attracted to me anymore or what’s going on. Truly I need him to give me something here because I’m feeling really neglected and yes I’ve told him this and nothings changing. I try to do new things here and there to spark something and nothing…. Not even just with sex but also just giving me love like hugs and kisses and holding me and cuddling etc…

Tonight we were watching this show and the girl said to the guy while they are having sex she’s thinking of another man. I jokingly was like “ do people do that? Have you ever done that with me?” Not even being serious and he says “ no” and like listen If you know someone you know when they are lying or not and when I tell you I could TELL the response was not an honest no. I’m so in my head right now. I’m thinking a million different things. My thing is what should I do?!?! How can I go about this maybe even approach it differently to see if he can give me any sort of explanation.? I’m just at a loss I don’t wanna nag him or keep at it but I also to have needs emotionally and physically and I just feel like I’m a roomate to him. There’s like nothing lovey about this anymore just two people in a home with children do parenting and occasional kisses and sex maybe once a month. 😭