So this is my first true lesbian relationship and we are married. I am definitely more the fem of the two of us. She doesn’t like penetration which I respect and we have tried but again not her favorite. Most of the time when we have sex its planned and goes straight from her touching on me to her asking if she should “just put it on”. Now there have been many times I’ve asked if she wants to wait and 99% of the time she says “nah I’m ready I’ll just put it on.” Sometimes I’m not even fully aroused and we do maybe 2 positions on a good day. Now I’m not gonna lie, she’s great at what she does, I usually get off pretty quickly… but she rarely does…. She says she’s good and doesn’t need to or it’ll take too long or she says she will just wait until I fall asleep so she can watch porn and “hump my butt”. In tense times she will say that I’m never intimate with her anymore and asks why I don’t go down on her. I love everything about her body and I actually love going down on her. But every time she just wants to strap on. I don’t know how to initiate sex anymore, it used to be so easy and uncomplicated. What do I do?