So I’ve posted on this platform a couple times, used what Ive heard but now I’m just unsure of what to do.

backstory: I’ve been having issues with my boyfriend not doing his part around the house. It’s not like he does NOTHING, but a lot of the times he’s waiting for me to initiate something to join in or he’ll come to the area I’m in and to “be” with me I’m like wtf are you watching me clean?! Or I’ll be cleaning something and when I’m almost done he tries to help out but it’s not helpful because I have my own process. However, if he initiated the task and wanted to do his own process - that’s fine w me bc he started the task).

Recently I’ve been busier with work and if my mind isn’t exhausted my body is (vice versa). I was feeling burnt out from work and wasn’t talking as much. I apologized and let him know why - he’s like okay. I was thinking maybe he’d help out more but not really the case.

I didn’t think it’d get to this point, but I also find myself not wanting to have sex with him and at times I’m not even interested in kissing or cuddling. This is an ongoing issue that causes spurts of resentment which feeds into becoming more distant.

I currently make more than him (which is fine), so I have no issue paying more toward rent, bills, groceries, etc. bc it would not be sustainable for us to go 50-50. However, in the same way, I feel it is not sustainable and unfair for me to handle majority of rent, bills, groceries, cleaning, and cooking. (He cooks here and there but there are also times when I come down from work and he’s doing nothing and I have to prepare my own meal and make his too and to me, he should be handing this since he was free at the time).

How else can I communicate this to him? It sucks that everything else in our relationship is fine but this issue does not seem to go away, and sometimes I wonder if this will be the demise.