My husband and I are first time parents. I do the majority of the caretaking (except for the 4 hours that I go to work (hubby is SAH). I put our 12 month old to sleep for 2 naps and bedtime (nurse to sleep), change her diapers, bathe her, read to her, look after her while her dad studies his books, feed her solids, etc. I can’t help but feel like “the bad guy” when she cries and wants papa (daddy). She’s sick right now so she’s been wanting to hang on papa a lot. He gets so annoyed with me when she cries so it makes me more stressed because he’s complaining that I’m not helping her. Right now she’s still not 100% so it’s sometimes difficult to tell what she needs or wants. Anyway, I want to comfort her too, but sometimes she just wants her dad. I think my husband thinks, “why can’t you just do this, I can make her stop crying” but she doesn’t want me. She probably thinks I’m gonna put a diaper on her or take her for nap idk. But sometimes I feel inadequate.