Devastated 😓

Natascha • Daydream believer, artist, dancer, musician, and lover of walking barefoot in the grass
I had my 12 week ultrasound on wednesday, so thankful that my husband was able to come, I couldn't wait to see the baby moving and hear the heartbeat. During the ultrasound, the technician turned the monitor away from me, and I asked my husband if he could see anything, and the technician turned to me and said 'there is no heartbeat'. I was in shock, crying I kept asking if there had been a mistake, couldn they try again? But they assured me, my baby had died. I had NO worrisome symptoms whatsoever- my bump had JUST popped, my breasts were bigger than ever, the morning sickness was finally slowing down, and I was just getting over the fear and excited about being a parent. How could I have miscarried ahd not known!? The last time I miscarried, I definitely knew. The doctor came in the room and was very matter-of-fact, scheduled a d&c, and spouted some statistics while my husband and I held each other and cried. Because of the holiday they had to put off the procedure for a week. That night, I held my bump and cried, wishing by some miracle that her tiny heart would start beating again. That night, I was rushed to the ER for emergency surgery, still recovering now. Words cannot explain how I feel, this being now my second miscarriage in a row. I feel like a failure as a woman. I can't watch a commercial or see a friend's facebook post of their child and not break down in tears. My pregnancy wasn't planned, and yeah, I was scared, but I never knew how much I truly loved my baby til she was gone. 
I am thankful that glow has some support for us women who have been unable to carry to term, and I'm hoping anyone else who has experienced loss like I have can share their advice and words of wisdom here. I feel truly lost, I am just thankful I have my husband and my family to support me- but I have to say, the holidays are seriously awful timing, and that as excited as we were to announce, I wish we had waited. Having to admit what I can barely accept myself is heartbreaking. 
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